'The hardest part was realizing that society had groomed me my entire life to make others happy...and groomed him to make himself comfortable.'
"The hardest part was realizing that society had groomed me my entire life to make others happy...and groomed him to make himself comfortable.""The loneliness, sacrifice, losing yourself, not having an emotionally available or emotionally intelligent partner, and lack of empathy/sympathy. Being told, 'This is who I am,' without a willingness to grow, learn, and become a more well-rounded individual.
"The hardest part was rediscovery and redefining my relationship with my spouse and my relationship with myself upon becoming empty nesters. People rarely talk about, share, or prepare you for the adjustment during this phase of your married life. Additionally, as a newly retired individual — my husband has been retired for several years — there is another adjustment period with yet another need to rediscover and redefine yourself and your spousal relationship.
"Being the one in the family to be the catch-all and making sure everything gets done. My husband legitimately believes he does 50% of the housework. More like 5%! I've tried several times to tell him I need help and support . It'll get better for a week before he reverts to his normal ways.""When you hate your husband, feel trapped, and everyone assumes everything is fine.
"Now, my boyfriend and I have communicated what needs to happen when we are upset; I need to go for a walk to sort my thoughts, and he needs to dive into a project. We give ourselves a couple of hours to think, and then, we come together and talk, not argue, and resolve or make a plan to resolve. If it's close to bedtime, we hug, hold hands in bed, and agree to talk the next day. Advice: Don't nag, get defensive, or be aggressive with your opinions and expectations.
"I truly hope I'm not in the minority who don't feel marriage is hard. Mine was a joy, filled with laughter and compassion."
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