Dear Amy: My mother was a difficult person. She was often not nice to my sister-in-law.
I admired my SIL for taking the high road and for being respectful toward my mother, and I told her so many times.
The only thing I think you might have done differently would be if you had altered your own wording when responding. I believe that speaking the truth about abuse or toxic behavior of family members is valid and can be helpful – even if it brings up painful feelings. Doing so can help people resolve the sometimes impossible duality of being the child of an abusive person.For your sister-in-law, talking this through in therapy is exactly what she should be doing.
You have been extremely kind and gracious to her in the past, and I hope you will continue. You also have every right to hold your own good memories of your mother; it sounds like you are lucky to have them.We have a lot to deal with but we are doing our best to handle this situation that neither of us really feel ready for. We both have great families and they are supportive.
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