Her husband won’t even discuss their sexless marriage, but she feels too young to be celibate forever.
I’m a woman in my 40s and am in a mostly sexless marriage. The past six or seven years, it has been once or twice a year. I have talked to my spouse about it, and he will blow it off with a joke or get annoyed that I’m bringing it up again. I still enjoy his company in other ways, but I feel as if we are more friends and co-parents than a married couple. Much of the time I think this is enough, but I also think I’m too young to be celibate for the rest of my life.
By the way, I’m as sure as I can be he’s not cheating; he just has zero interest anymore and doesn’t seem to want to change that.“This is important to me. Please don’t blow me off with jokes; that’s not fair to either of us.” Or: “I understand this is uncomfortable, but I believe I have a right to an answer, or at least an honest discussion. This is our lives we’re talking about.”
So if your spouse won’t even tell you the truth, then you’re headed to a loneliness even more profound than the one you’re feeling now. Plant your flag there and don’t budge. That’ll tell you whether you have a life partner, a pal, a roommate or an ex.Perhaps your husband has a medical problem and is too embarrassed to discuss it with you, because he feels like a failure.One possibility, yes. All the more reason not to let the yuk-yuk response pass for a legitimate answer.
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