This week, counsellor and author Lucy Cavendish advises a reader who is worried about intimacy with a new partner after a traumatic past
‘He said he’d like to take me to Paris – however I’m really worried about going away with him,’ says the writer I haven’t been in a long-term relationship for the last five years. Before then I was married to a man who I loved very much but it turned out that he was beingto me with an ex-girlfriend. When I found out, I was in shock. I thought we had a really good marriage based on trust, love and respect. We also had a very good sex life.
When we are betrayed by someone we love, cracks start to appear in our body and our hearts and our soul. It takes a tremendous amount to heal these cracks. Yet it might be helpful to remember that we’re all a bit battle-scarred when we come out of relationships. Even those who want to separate come out a bit battered and bruised.
You’re also totally right in naming the fact that you need to have another man’s body in relation to your body. I totally understand that there is still an imprint of your husband on your body. It’s as if a hand grenade has gone off or a gun has been shot and there’s some residue of it still on you. So yes, you need to be intimate with another man – I think this would be very helpful.You are going to have to find a way of relaxing – maybe having a couple of glasses of wine.
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