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From getting the kids ready for school to deciding who’s cooking the dinner, to managing a team at work or asking for that pay rise, we use communication to try and reach agreement and a path forward.Nicky Perfect is a former police hostage and crisis negotiator with the New Scotland Yard Crisis Negotiation Unit. She joined BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour for our special New Year’s Day programme all about women and negotiation and shared her advice for negotiating in our everyday lives.
“If you do that with your own relationships with the people that are in your lives every day, you'll see a huge transformation in those relationships.”“Most of our conversations are about us and what we want and how we see the world”, says Nicky. “Just be conscious of that, and think about what the other person’s saying, and see the world perhaps from their perspective.“Imagine there is a number six drawn on the floor.
“When we know how to listen, and really listen to what's being said and what's not being said, that can change the conversation, that can change the dynamics. And it can change the relationships that we have with other people.”“Unfortunately, I taught my 16-year-old this when she was six”, says Nicky. “She still uses this very, very well.