How does this letter writer answer invasive questions about her pregnancy?
After several years of dealing with infertility and undergoing various treatments, my husband and I are expecting our first child.
Since many of our family and friends were aware of our struggles to get pregnant, I have received a few invasive questions that I'd prefer to not answer: “So, did you guys do IVF? Donor embryos?” etc. I find it jarring to be asked about something as personal as the circumstances surrounding conception, but I know some are just too curious to help themselves.
Can you suggest a response that signals it’s incredibly rude to ask such questions? Every response I come up with ends with a few choice four-letter words, which I know Miss Manners would strongly condemn. I’m in great need of your grace and tact.at dealing with childishness. As parents, you will gauge your answers to the maturity of the questioner. This is such a case. Miss Manners assures you that mature people do not go around asking others how babies are made.
The problem? All kinds of people, who probably mean well, keep telling me what a great person I am for taking care of her, how wonderful of me, how selfless I am, etc. Miss Manners, I am none of these things. I take care of her because … she needs someone to take care of her. Period. Why praise me for doing something that needs to be done? What would be the alternative, in their eyes? Have they no loved ones?The adulations are getting nauseating.
Sorry for going on and on. What do I say, in a “Miss Manners” way, to people who keep saying things like this?Ask Amy: Spouse is disappointed in family’s reaction to cancerHe died before seeing every MLB field. His sons completed his mission.
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