Straight cis people are getting too comfortable making pronoun jokes, and it’s annoying
Reader, I must confess: I think straight cis people are getting too comfortable. The other week, a straight friend said they could tell who topped between the twink-y boys in– like, what? Neither of those slinky sweat tennis girlies are “tops.” Tch: Obvi, Zendaya is the top in that throuple.
Goofy blockbuster movie aside, that comment wasn’t actually serious – and I knew that, deep down. But even deeper down, like in my feral brain pit where thoughts go to stew, this offhand joke hooked into a frustration I’ve been feeling for some time. It started with weird sexualized trans jokes in every Adult Swim show and just kept on, morphing into cis people making “Socks with blue hair” jokes they heard on TikTok.
Look: Am I saying that on a day-to-day basis, straight and cis people making a crack or two about queer stuff is ruining my life? No. It’s just noise – the way seeing a thin-blue-line bumper sticker during traffic or a homophobic AI image on Facebook or anything Jerry Seinfeld says is just noise.
To be honest, I’m usually the doormat in those situations. People pleaser alert! But maybe I need to be mean – maybe we all need to be mean. If no one puts up a fight then nothing changes. Stand up for Socks with blue hair and pronouns, or better yet, stand up for all the people who’ve suffered violence for standing up. Putting a foot down now means not having to do it later. Proactive party pooping, so to speak.
If you’re a cis straight person, my advice is to just be willing to unpack why you think the gay joke you’re telling is funny. Bias can be dismantled, but discomfort is all part of the process. We’re all in this discomfort together, though, so at least you’re not alone.As our beloved PPP winds down their long run on Red River, their third show is a drag tribute to electronic power couple Boy Harsher.
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