She had hoped, in vain, that her girlfriend would have sat out the “sensual touch” at a body-positivity workshop.
I’ve been in a relationship with “Celia” for eight months. We have agreed to be monogamous since the start, although Celia’s preference was non-monogamy. I wasn’t comfortable with that, and she agreed to have an exclusive relationship with me.
I confronted Celia about whether she took part, and she said she did. I was gutted that she hadn’t sat that part out, or at least warned me it was involved. Celia herself is cooperating with that, obviously, in her way. She agreed to a monogamous relationship. Many in her position do this and mean it.But none of this changes who she is. She was honest about herself, and honest about her weekend, and that honesty is a gift to you. It’s a chance for you to take her at her word and accept that your partner in monogamy doesn’t see it the way you do. In a way, she’s agreeing to terms.
At some point, regardless, you still need to be able to trust yourself to handle it if things go sideways — say, if the person you know prefers an open relationship isn’t monogamous quite to your standards.
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