In today's Dear Annie column, Annie Lane offers some advice on how a reader can approach their brother-in-law to discuss him honoring his wife's wishes before she died.
Still grieving the loss of their sister, Annie Lane offers some advice on how to broach her final wishes with the reader's brother-in-law.
My sister passed away during the summer of 2023. She didn’t have a will. She was married but specifically stated to me and her husband that she wanted some of her material belongings to be given to me. She also said that she wanted her annuity to be given to me, probably about $300,000. Her husband was aware of her wishes and even repeated her wishes to me.
Just a few weeks after my sister passed, her husband was diagnosed with cancer. To make a long story short, my husband and I helped my brother-in-law out with pet sitting, cooking, cleaning, visiting him at the hospital, whatever he needed. We knew his family wasn’t going to help and he had no one else. This was over the course of eight months. We were able and willing to assist him, even though we both worked and he lived two hours away.
I feel as if he’s holding my sister’s belongings and money, and has no intention of passing them to us. I miss my sister and would rather be able to grieve “normally,” but I have feelings of anger, disappointment and mistrust toward my BIL now. I haven’t asked him for anything of my sister’s. I’m holding her in my heart and I’m grateful for the years we had together. It’s the principle of him not respecting her wishes and doing what she wanted.I’m so sorry for your loss.
Gently bring up the topic with your BIL, expressing your understanding of his health challenges as well as your need for closure. You might say, “I’ve been thinking about my sister’s wishes regarding her belongings and annuity. Can we discuss how to honor them?” If he’s resistant, consider consulting an attorney to understand your legal options. Balancing compassion for his situation with your sister’s intentions is key. You deserve to properly grieve and honor your sister’s memory.
Annie-Lane @Exmeter @Mrose @Lll
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