I thought it was insensitive for the family not to notify him personally.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband’s close relative died. We found out by chance because an announcement appeared on our social media feeds. We did not receive a private message, a text or a phone call. We don’t use social media very often; if we hadn’t seen the announcement, we wouldn’t have known.
They responded that I was rude and selfish. They said that they, the bereaved party who organized the funeral and wake, were entitled to manage it in a way that made their grief easier to bear. Then they blocked me on social media, which is fine with me. Social media announcements that close relatives may see by chance are not polite, in my view. I’ll concede that I probably shouldn’t have mentioned it, especially since they’re my in-laws, but isn’t it fundamentally rude not to inform family members directly that someone has died?
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